Saturday, 01 December 2018 10:02

The Seven Agreements of River Writing

The Seven Agreements of River Writing

1. Non-Judgement:
We agree to practice for the sake of practice without criticism, praise, or apology. We commit not to comment, and especially not to praise. We grant ourselves permission to write wildly, poorly, and even to fail. We write to discover: not to craft, claim, or prove. We offer the inner-critic a break from vigilance. We take respite from the joy-stealing realm of comparison. 

2. Shared Responsibility:
We agree to take responsibility for the impact of our words, actions, and energy. Together, we will create a community defined by authentic inclusion. We agree that everyone matters, those within this circle, and those without. Everyone. We speak and act accordingly: without racism, sexism, nationalism, abilism, agism, fat phobia, homophobia, transphobia, or other forms of bias. If we stumble, we will acknowledge our mistakes and apologize. When we stumble, we will stumble toward each other.

3. Confidentiality & Consent:
We agree not to retell other writer's stories. If we wish to speak with someone about their writing we will ask permission first, prepared to gracefully accept their decline. We will not ask during a session, even at the break or on the way out the door, which is often too soon. We agree not to offer unsolicited advice. 

4. Self Care:
We agree to take care of our own physical and emotional needs. While we a creating a brave space which is safer than most, we are still ultimately responsible for managing our own level of disclosure.

5. Honesty:
We agree to say the truest thing we can say within our chosen level of disclosure. We agree to come as we are. We will do our best to ditch our scripts and worn-out stories.

6. Listening with the Heart:
We agree to listen whole-heartedly, without judgement, and with attentive curiosity. When someone is reading or speaking, we will give ourselves over to luxury of listening without the worry of what to say next. We practice listening in a way that is as open and receptive as the face of an owl. On an inner level, we agree to actively pull for whomever is speaking.

7. Kindness:
We agree to practice radical kindness with each other and with ourselves. We will practice including ourselves in the circle of kindness we will be helping to create.

Permission granted to copy and utilize these agreements anywhere and everywhere they may be of benefit! Please cite nanseymour.com as your source.

 

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